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I have learned something about myself this week. When I am going through a lot of stress, I close myself off, and I even try to ignore it. Thankfully, the stress is alleviating, so I feel like I can blog again.

T.J. is officially leaving Wednesday night (the 25th) on the redeye to New York City. So, that means we have a week and a half to really live it up. We searched for two bedroom apartments, like I mentioned earlier. But an opportunity for T.J. to live with two other guys in a studio apartment for really cheap (well, NY cheap) came up and we jumped on it. Because it is so cheap, we’ve decided I’ll come visit for about a week in July and stay in a hotel. I’m obviously really excited about the trip… but when it hit me last night that I definitely wouldn’t be with T.J. for the summer, I kind of had a breakdown. One of those embarrassing, laying on the ground, full out cries. (Please tell me I’m not the only one who does this on occasion…)

T.J. and I decided to say a prayer and that helped me calm down a bit. Then this morning at church, one of the people who talked mentioned one of my favorite quotes from Elder Wirthlin.

I almost started crying again. But this time it was because I knew Heavenly Father was answering my many prayers and pleadings. These next four months are going to be hard. But it’s necessary that T.J. goes out there because it will be extremely beneficial for his career. I need to accept that he’s leaving and be excited for this journey in our lives. And most importantly, I need to be optimistic.

Here is what I’ve come up with to help me see this as a positive experience:

  1. I will be here to watch The Bachelorette with my friends this summer (yeah… I know…).
  2. I’ll get to hang out with T.J.’s family and see little Holly grow with Eva.
  3. I’ll get to visit Lacey and Josh in Boise over Memorial weekend.
  4. I’ll get to go to Enterprise, Utah for the 24th of July and Eva will get to meet her Great-great-grandpa.
  5. The pass of all passes will be used to it’s max capacity.
  6. We’ll save a lot of money.
  7. When I visit T.J. I’ll get to have a great time instead of having to scrimp all summer if I was there.
  8. With T.J.’s new computer and my phone, we will FaceTime/Skype everyday.
  9. I have an amazing ward with a Relief Society, Visiting Teachers and Home Teachers who will look after me.
  10. I’ll get to visit my family in Kentucky .
  11. Nanna Hannah Banana Fontana (Hannah Judd) and I will get to play together everyday.
  12. I will have the luxuries that I’m used to, such as our large condo, our car, and cheap living.

There you have it. I’m pretty sure I’ll have to refer to this list often. Maybe I should even print it out and hang it on my fridge. Can you think of more positives I can add to the list? Will you take care of me when he’s gone? Pleaseandthankyou!


3 replies
  1. Jeanette
    Jeanette says:

    Oh my gosh, Katie, can I please come hang out with you and Eva all the time this summer? I, too, will be lonely and in Provo. We can go to Seven Peaks and Cocoa Bean and I can babysit for you… yeah. Let’s be friends.

  2. Elise Parker
    Elise Parker says:

    The fact that your #1 was that you can watch The Bachelorette this summer made me love you even more! This summer will go by so quick with all of your trips and our Seven Peaks days. I can’t wait for those.

  3. Erica Messerly
    Erica Messerly says:

    Good luck girl. As soon as I read this I thought about 3 summers ago when you two spent all summer apart..the first time. I thought you two would have learned 🙂 Just take it one day at a time.

    Miss you


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